I want to talk about something that is all too real for me and, I imagine, quite a few of you as well.
When there is a desire to travel, being happy and content at home can be difficult.
Travelers want to move. Roots feel like weight. And weight makes it tough to travel.
Most of us can't travel all of the time.
We have responsibilities that keep pulling us back home.
And, just for the record, I don't think that it's a bad thing. I believe that having a resting place where you're surrounded by people you love and who love you is a beautiful thing.
Still, while we lust for travel, we forget how wonderful our everyday lives can be.
So how can we begin to appreciate our lives at home more?
Putting Our Restless Feelings Into Words
If you feel like a restless soul that constantly needs to wander, you need to listen to this song: Airstream Song by Miranda Lambert.
I identify with this song a lot, and since you're still reading this, you likely will too.
(If you don't want to listen to it, you can keep reading, but it's only 2 minutes and 52 seconds, and I definitely recommend listening!)
I just want you to let the lyrics sink in for a moment.
We're going to talk about them in a bit because I don't think I can say it better than Miranda.
Why We Feel Perpetually Dissatisfied
As travelers, we crave adventure.
We feel a strong sense of wanderlust, meaning our hearts are always lusting after someplace new and unfamiliar.
I don't know about you, but I tend to be dissatisfied if I'm in one place for too long.
In the song, Miranda says,
"Unbridled, tethered, and tied,
The safety of the fence or the danger of the ride,
I'll always be unsatisfied."
Miranda is saying that no matter what condition she is in, no matter what she is doing, she will always be unsatisfied.
That is a horribly hopeless way to feel.
Do you feel that way sometimes?
Like you are always trying to feed a hunger that burns in your soul, but you can never satiate it? It doesn't matter where you go or what you do?
After all, the grass is always greener on the other side...
I know that you probably feel as though you need to travel in order to be happy. That you just go through the motions when you're at home.
I certainly do.
Plus, I don't know about you, but if I'm not currently traveling, I had better be planning a trip!
It's perfectly fine that traveling makes us happy.
However, we need to learn to be content and happy wherever we are.
If we can successfully change our attitudes, I believe that we can be happy and content in all aspects of our lives!
But, your life dream is to travel the world; how can you feel happy if you're not constantly working towards that goal?!
Before I answer that, I want to draw your attention to a line from the song we just listened to.
Miranda also says,
"If this is all I need, why do I want more?"
There is nothing wrong with having ambitions!
In fact, I think it's fantastic!
However, I think that sometimes we become so focused on one goal that we let other important parts of our lives fall by the wayside.
Don't become consumed by your goals, dreams, and ambitions.
Allow them to guide you through life, but remember that there are other important things as well, such as family and friends.
Even though it may feel like it, we don't need to constantly be moving to be happy because that's not always possible!
Take a deep breath and realize that you can be happy while you work to reach your goals, and not everything in your life has to revolve around your goals.
Taking care of yourself and your relationships is an important part of reaching your goals.
Happiness isn't a state of being; it's a state of mind.
You might feel that all of your problems could be easily solved if your life was just different.
Thoughts like, if I had more money, my problems would be solved because I could travel more and work less, might be running through your head.
While, yes, money would allow you to travel more, it doesn't fix the issue at its core.
Your malcontent starts within you.
People with a little money have problems.
People with a lot of money have problems.
Sure, the problems might be different, but they're still problems.
In order to be content, you have to start by changing your mindset.
Happiness is greatly affected by our attitude.
How to Change Your Mindset
Gratitude reminds you that there are little things in life to be grateful for: hot coffee, that one song you love more than anything, sunshine, birds chirping, stars, etc.
We often get caught up in life, go through the motions.
We don't notice the beauty that surrounds us daily, and we're definitely not grateful for it.
Gratitude has a way of shifting our mindsets.
If you struggle with being grateful, perhaps you should start a gratitude journal.
Need some help getting started?
Read Self-Help Books
Don't take what the author says as absolute truth.
A lot of self-help authors have great tips to help you become a happier person; however, everyone is different.
You may find that you don't jibe well with certain authors. Their help might not feel all that helpful.
So, try a different book.
You'll find something that inspires you!
Not sure where to start?
This sounds simple, but it's amazing how much power a smile has over your emotions.
When your getting coffee in the morning, smile at the barista.
If you see something cute, smile.
If you see something beautiful, smile.
Then, say something to yourself about it.
Acknowledge that you like. You don't have to speak out loud.
You may find that there is a lot more to smile about it your day to day life that you originally thought.
I love morning mantras.
They are a great way to set the tone and an intention for the day.
So often, we get out of bed feeling a bit grumpy because we're tired or we don't want to go to work.
Instead, I challenge you to pick a phrase to say to yourself every morning when you get out of bed.
I want you to look in the mirror and repeat your mantra out loud.
Your mantra can be anything you want, so long as it encourages you and makes you feel good!
How to Travel Without Traveling
Okay, so you're working on your mindset.
You've been feeling a bit happier about small thing.
However, you still have the burning desire to travel.
Of course you do! You didn't think it would actually go away, did you?
That's definitely not the point of this.
The point is to make you happy and content when you're at home.
Read a Book
My best recommendation is to read a work of fiction or creative nonfiction related to traveling.
This will help you go on an adventure while you're sitting in your living room.
This, of course, may only make your desire to fly away even greater, which is why it's important that you still work to change your mindset.
Try New Things
If you love to travel, you likely love it because of how exciting it is.
In order to replicate that kind of excitement in your own life, you should try new things!
Try new restaurants, food, activities, sports, workouts, etc.
There are literally so many things you can try!
Find a Hobby
You need a hobby, if you don't already have one.
Find something that relaxes you but also makes you excited.
Once I found a hobby that I love, I felt a sense of greater purpose.
My time at home started to have direction, which is something that I didn't feel before.
So, hopefully, a hobby will give you the same feeling.
Why We Feed Dissatisfied
We feel dissatisfied if we’re not traveling because we crave adventure. Our lives at home are usually mundane and lack the adventure we desire. So, of course, we’d feel happier on the road.
Happiness Isn't a State of Being; It's a State of Mind
Happiness is greatly affected by our thoughts, and less affected by our situation. You can be in a good situation and be unhappy because you have negative thoughts. You can also be in a bad situation and be happy because you have positive thoughts. It’s all about your mindset.
How to Change Your Mindset
Practice gratitude, read self-help books (the one’s the get you pumped up!), smile more, and integrate mantras into you’re morning routine.
How to Travel Without Traveling
Read a book (something that allows you to use your imagination), try new things, and find a hobby!
I really hope this has helped you guys find some peace.
We all deserve to be happy!
Remember, happiness isn't a state of being; it's a state of mind.
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Until next time,